Adding to my collection of work inspired by female archetypes, this week I sketched out my first idea for The Mother. A close friend who is a soon-to-be mother inspired me. I am in awe of her humble honesty and courage. I would imagine becoming a mother is one of the most magical and terrifying experiences in a woman’s life.
Not speaking from experience but purely from observation of others, when a woman commits to having and raising a child, it is the most selfless act; a choice that changes her life forever. She not only goes through great physical changes, but mentally and emotionally this child now becomes the most important priority, above all else that she once held dear. I’m sure that in most cases the joy of having a child and the love that she holds far outweighs any sacrifices, but ultimately she must know that she is losing a part of herself and her freedom. This can be very difficult to acknowledge.
What I appreciate about this very special woman is that she unpresumptuously said out loud that she is selfish. She loves her freedom, she loves to travel and go as she pleases. Ironically even though she is quite independent and free-spirited, in my opinion she is anything but selfish. She is beautiful inside and out and one of the most caring and kind persons I happen to know. I can’t remember a single time in the many years that I’ve known her that she has ever been selfish.
I think sometimes people confuse self-care with selfishness. Of course when you have less responsibility, you have more time to take care of yourself and do things that you enjoy. However, even when one’s life becomes more hectic and responsibilities seem to take over, it is still important to practice self-care by continuing to do the things that you love independently of others. These things, such as yoga, traveling, creating art or whatever else you happen to have a passion for simply feed your soul. When we do not take the time for ourselves, people seem to develop a sort of bitter resentment towards others, and mostly towards those people for whom they’ve made the most sacrifices for.
By giving time to yourself you are more likely to love and give to others. So to all of you mothers out there, I am amazed by you. You have a strength and love unlike no other. Just remember to do something for yourself every once in a while and be selfish if that’s what it really is. Being a martyr doesn’t get you anywhere but dead. (Woah, heavy! My little sick humor.) Till next time folks!
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